I've honestly spent the better part of my life as a people pleaser. This has not been my strongest quality, I will admit. Even as a (shy-believe it or not!) young child, I remember smiling and going with the flow, even if I didn't agree. I never wanted to hurt anyone's feelings or cause confrontation, so I always chose to keep the peace. Over time though, I have learned that this has not served me well. Because at the end of the day, my opinions, self worth, and feelings matter the most. Can anyone relate?
As an adult with a family of my own and busy lifestyle, my time is limited! Choosing how to manage my time volunteering, with friends, and events has become much more difficult. As I get older, I realize that if something or someone isn't creating peace in my life- I've got to let that shit go! There's very little time to deal with things that don't serve you. You owe that to yourself to say no to a volunteer position that you dread or a person that is a life sucking vampire. When you aren't listening to that inner voice and creating peace within yourself, everything else around you starts to fall apart.
I certainly still find myself dealing with situations and people that sometimes prevents me from creating proper boundaries. But, I make it a point to take a big step back and analyze how situations are effecting my life (and my family's life too!). I've learned over time that saying "no" is actually pretty freeing. Telling a friend straight up why they are hurting your feelings, takes a load off your shoulders. Unfollowing someone on social media because you don't like their negative vibe can do wonders. Choosing to limit your interaction with certain people so they don't take advantage of you, is pretty damn amazing.
Ultimately, it is your responsibility how you execute your life. You have one life to live, so do it in a way that serves you the best. Be kind and considerate to others, but don't let people walk all over you. Have that self love and worth that drives you. Honor what's inside and never dismiss your feelings. Because, at the end of the day, you can never pour from an empty cup.
"Love yourself enough to set boundaries. Your time and energy are precious. You get to chose how you use it. You teach people how to treat you by deciding what you will and won't accept." -Anna Taylor
Until next time,